Motherhood IS boring!

Ok, seriously...it is a taboo admission.  Being a mother CAN BE BORING!  There I said it outloud.  There is so much truth to that statement.  I have said many times "I hate to play"..but when you think of all the things you have to do during the day that are related to "motherhood", well, they are just plain boring.  I was watching the TODAY show and there was a story about a woman from New England who is taking a lot of heat for publicly making this statement.  WTF?!  If most of us were honest, would we not agree with that statement?!  I love my kids, but after two minutes of "let's pretend we are having a tea party", I'm thinking "I JUST WANT TO GO DO SOMETHING ELSE, ANYTHING OTHER THAN THIS..THIS IS SO BORING I WOULD RATHER STICK HOT POKERS IN MY EYES..."  I am admittedly happy when I am doing something with my children that is entertaining to ME.  (i.e. shopping for clothes, shoes, eating ice cream, scrapbooking....you name it!) 
The SAHM's are really ticked and offended at this woman, but I applaud her!  I tried being a SAHM and it was NOT for me!  I am a more quality mother BECAUSE I work...if I had to stay at home all day, well someone would not survive.  I know that about myself.  Which, I think is why I can no longer be in MOPS.  No offense to the peoples...but, I am a total outcast when it comes to that crowd.  My few friends in that group understand me, but can you imagine me making the statement..."I would rather work three part time jobs than play dress-up with my kids?"  Ohhh, I would be stoned to death!!!! :)
I think everyone has their own way of doing what works for them...this is totally what works for ME!!! I have a great respect for women that choose to stay home, I'm not sure how they do that!   The more independent my kids become, the better things are in my world! Seriously, I totally try to instill this early.  As soon as they can hold their own bottle, I am on my way to happy.  So lots of shout outs to the mother's of the world that LOVE their jobs...I, on the other hand, need more than just the day to day of raising kids!
Ok, off the soap box...loving that my daughter Carly is up "taking a shower"..she fixed breakfast for she and her sister this am and is now up getting ready for the day (see?  fostering that independence early!)  It makes me happy and proud that she is able to do these things and she WANTS to do these things on her own. 
Tonight we are off to hear her sing in her final voice lesson performance..I am looking forward to that.  I will also be visiting Jules this pm..she is doing better..had more surgery yesterday and is still in ICU, but she is improving!
Tomorrow we will be doing some school shopping..talk about 80's styles..they are back!  The whole Madonna like a virgin look seems to be sneaking back into fashion.  Oh scary.  The 80's weren't the best in fashion, but alas, my daughter wants some sleeveless gloves and some leggings.  YIKES!  It's all about rock and roll and lacey stuff this year..converse and long shirts belted over leggings. 

It should be interesting!
Cheers!

P.S.  I really, really love my kids..truly.  Don't you doubt that for one second...!

Comments

[meredith]

i get mired in the mundane, repetitive things. The fact that I have to start lunch 10 minutes before they start whining for lunch... things like that.

Glad to hear that Julie is feeling better, but why the surgery?

[lalulla1]

WOW!!! Finally for the first time I see a mother who thinks the same as I think .... ALL of my friends who are married and mothers thinks motherhood is the best job in the world and they love playing with their kids and BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! and when I talk to them about how much I don't like kids, they think I am crazy and retarded ..... Now when I talk to my friends who are not mothers and not married about how much I hate kids, they think that I am not appreciating my marriage and motherhood life simply because they "think" that when you are married and having kids then you should be HAPPY ... which is not necessarily true!!!! I was married at 17 ....... two kids .... 4 yrs old and 12 moths ..... both were mistakes ... I am NOT glad that I had them .... I simply hate kids .... sorry babies ... I do!!! I wish I was free!!! OMG I have never felt the freedom; never lived my teenage years ... I just hate it .. I'm okay with being married and I love my husband,, but just the kids are NOT fun at all!!

[susan]

thanks for saying that! i had to google "motherhood is tiring" and i got your blog! i love my daughter of course but ig et tired everyday. and i cant say it loud because people out there expect me to be happy and do this tirelessly!